Fidelity

My sister is sleeping right beside me after she has chatted on the phone for a very long time. It was NOT my brother in law she was talking to oh-so-coyly :) .

Fidelity. What is it? I have never been a faithful person, and i have not seen many people who are. I am not saying that everyone is a dog or a bitch and is a cheater. I am not saying every one is sleeping around. But what i am saying is who has been 100% faithful to their partner?

I have fallen in and out of love quite a few times. Some seemed as everlasting love but mostly they turned out to be my teenage hormones kicking inside me. While some were the real deal. I was in love. But they have not lasted have they? My boyfriend's last relationship has not lasted. My ex-boyfriend's relationship before me had not lasted, and the cycle goes on. People are falling in the and out love all the time. Some last longer and takes more time to break. But it will break eventually. If everlasting love really did exist then even after a break-up the dumped person would never get into a relationship again. But do they wait for their former love to back? NO. Eventually they move on. Because there are too many options re. If one goes a better version pops up.

So no feeling is cent percent faithful. Boyfriends and Girlfriends keep checking out other girls and boys respectively. It leads to a "fire" and then a new "love". So banking on your guy or girl to be completely yours is well a stupid thought to think. People are moving on all the time.

Some relationships do last, but those are the result of painful, treacherous hard work. But what will the common non hard-workers will do? Hold on to the good memories. Each relationship or "fling" could be a lesson. Each person you come in contact with, will have a virtue or a value to teach you. SO before blaming your past about being a complete dog, see what you have learned from that person. I am not asking anyone to...well...not try to be unfaithful, but the moments of slips are completely understandable.That one moment of lust does kick in, but that depends on the person in the particular situation. Some are controlled others are well, being human. Fidelity is an illusion, and the longer you are lost in the illusion the more of a hater you become.

But if you see that you have absolutely NO treasure to safe-keep from your past then he/she was probably a dog/bitch. Delete that portion out of the hard drive of your life. ;)